This is a Flashback post! Somehow, I never published it, but seeing as school starts this month, it's quite appropriate. Not to mention it's filled with memories for me. This still applies to everyone's first day at school. Enjoy!
Our son just started Kindergarten. It was really exciting! I didn’t cry, but was amazed by the flashbacks of when I was little girl in school. I loved to learn. It was great to be with other kids. Kindergarten was filled with playtime.
Kindergarten sure isn’t playtime anymore. And everyone doesn’t have the same experience anymore either. Previously, regulated daycares & pre-K classes didn’t exist. As for my son, he has been in daycare since he was 3 months old. You’d think he’d be ready. But it’s just as hard for him as the other kids who have stay at home mommies. He had to say goodbye to his old routine, his old friends, his old teachers, basically to the life he knew for over 5 years. Now, playtime is over; it’s learning time with a little bit of playtime. After school, there’s the bus ride to daycare too. He has a long day. That’s hard on anybody.
Did I mention it’s hard on us too? No one likes change. And this was a lot of change. This house wakes up earlier. He has to eat breakfast within a certain timeframe. Lunch bags need to be prepared. How is a 5 year old going to carry a backpack, a lunch bag & a snack bag? How is he going to put it all up, repack stuff, coordinate all those little things? I don’t know; but it’s been done by others for years. It’s just my turn this time.
Technology has changed as well in schools. My son’s teacher has his homework schedule on her blog which is very convenient. She also offers communication via email. Remember when it used to only be notes and/or phone calls? Even the PTA is modernized. The PTA has its own website with many helpful links. They even have a Facebook page. If we want to know what the PTA school functions are, we may refer to the website and Facebook. For example, Family Bingo Night was run by the PTA with details online. Relying on technology, a lot can be accomplished. I must say, I’m amazed that this school is using technology as a part of communication, not a replacement for it. It’s a public school that has family at its heart.
Despite all the changes, there is one thing that doesn’t change … the human experience. Letting go isn’t easy. Trusting others to teach your kids & care for them isn’t easy either.
Yet, somehow, we are surviving. He’s starting to make friends, but it’s not as easy as in daycare. And he feels it. Positive affirmations and pep talks are given. Reviewing the day, homework, and coaching are done. Clearly, our roles have expanded. I must admit I’m feeling more tired than before. Great news is that he is excited. In the end, that’s all that matters.
So, this Pediatrician, this Mommy, is going through growing pains along with my patients’ moms. It’s nice to bond with families at this special time in our children’s lives. It’s nice to share in the difficult times and the joyous ones as well. After all, being a parent is the toughest and most rewarding job of all.
Here's a helpful resource. Being prepared for your child's first day of school with this checklist should help to minimize your stress (http://bit.ly/1xGZO8E).
As a working mom, it's been a delicate balance to juggle work and home every day (http://bit.ly/1odULFX). I've admired stay at home moms; raising children and caring for your home, exclusively, is a tough task indeed.
Like many of you, I'm at the point in my life where my family needs me home. Recently, were blessed to have another child. With the addition of our daughter, it became clear, that each family member had their own unique needs that weren't being met. In addition, with my husband's growing practice, it became harder to justify each of us spending less and less time with our family. After all, what's it all for, if not for family? As part-time work was unavailable, we discussed our options...continue to work or stay at home.
The decision to stay home was a difficult one for may reasons. I had practiced at the same site for 12.5 years. I have attachments to many of the families I've helped, even forming friendships along the way. I've seen many children grow up into lovely young ladies and men. Undoubtedly, I would miss them. In addition, being a one income home would mean many changes were in order. Such a big life change required close scrutiny of finances, creating a detailed household budget, & most of all the cooperation of each member of our little family. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that I need to pause my career, placing a priority on my family. And so, for now, I'm a stay at home mom.
The transition from being a full-time Pediatrician to a homemaker is exceedingly difficult, as I imagine it would be for any working mother. It's a huge adjustment to a very different life. I miss the atmosphere in a pediatric office; I sorely miss the spirit of the children. In addition, being a homemaker is hard work. While it is true that the demands of the office and hospital are no longer present, it is also true that the personal demands of home life are much more than those at work. After all, there is an end to a work day. However, there's never an end to the work at home. As many of you homemakers know, being a stay at home mom is a seemingly never-ending unappreciated and undervalued job. There's lots of repetition of cooking, cleaning, caring, organizing, and being supportive of each family member, while somehow learning and trying to find time for yourself.
On the other hand being a stay at home mom has its great joys. I'm happy to know that I am here for my husband, our children, and our home life. For the first time, I am able to dedicate myself completely to family and home. At the end of the day, I must say that it feels pretty darn good to set aside my doctor's hat for a while and be a mommy, a wife, and take care of myself. Staying at home is difficult, but it is very rewarding and fulfilling.
Here are some helpful articles about being a stay at home mom (http://www.scarymommy.com/becoming-a-stay-at-home-mom) and a stay at home dad (http://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/types-of-families/Pages/Stay-At-Home-Dads.aspx).
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