The other day, I read a Facebook post that has resonated with me. It basically stated that we, as mothers, do not often notice we are beautiful. In fact, we do the opposite. Often, we say to ourselves and outloud, to those around us that we are not beautiful. We point out all of our physical deficits, or perceived deficits. How many times has someone complimented you, for you to only refute what they've said?
Most of us will tell our children how beautiful they are, how special they are, and much more. But do they really learn it simply because we've told them? Of course, our negative self-talk is not helpful to ourselves. Interestingly enough, it is also detrimental to our children. Have you ever realized that your children are listening? Children learn from our actions. Showing them a lack of self-love, teaches them a lack of self-love. If we say our positives out loud, we may not only start believing them, our children will likely start believing it about themselves too.
When was the last time you told yourself you were beautiful, just as you are? When you start saying it out loud, you will undoubtedly feel odd. Then, a funny thing will start to happen, you will start believing it. Your child will see the difference too. A mommy that believes she is truly beautiful will result in a beautiful child.
Yesterday, the U. S. Supreme Court ruled that the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was unconstitutional "as a matter of equal protection." DOMA was signed into law in 1996 by President Clinton. DOMA effectively prohibited legally married same-sex couples from receiving Federal benefits, such as social security benefits, tax recognition, family medical leave, Veteran's benefits, and much more. In a second ruling, the U. S. Supreme Court affirmed Federal recognition of legally married same-sex couples. This has undoubtedly had a tremendous impact on many children and families of this great nation.
Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy, stated, "(DOMA) ... humiliates tens of thousands of children now being raised by same-sex couples. The law in question makes it even more difficult for the children to understand the integrity and closeness of their own family and its concord with other families in their community and in their daily lives."
Regardless of political or religious opinion, the rights of children and their financial, emotional, and physical health comes first. Now that the U. S. Supreme Court has affirmed Federal recognition of same-sex civil marriages, these families and their children, will now have access to legal benefits and a security that they never had before.
Every day, we are given a multitude of opportunities to have open conversations with our children. Given the Court's recent ruling, that DOMA was unconstitutional, now is an important time to talk to our children about tolerance, life's issues, equality & more.
The 2012-2013 Flu season started & peaked earlier than it typically does with cases documented as early as September 2012 and peaking in December 2012. In addition, The past Flu season brought had a higher death rate for both seniors and children. 149 documented children's death occurred due to Flu. This is about 3 times higher than the average season. In addition, senior over the age of 65 wet hit hard as evidence that they accounted for more than half of the hospitalization rates in the U.S.
While it is summer time, it is important to think about Flu shots now. Typically, physicals are done in the summertime. That is also the perfect time to receive the Flu vaccine. Your child will be protected before the season & before they are exposed to other children when school restarts.
Several of my patients have Autism. They vary exactly where they are on the spectrum. Most of them have some form of anxiety at office visits; for some, it is severe. Of course, many children Have anxiety around doctors. in fact, surgeons have noticed that the iPad has become a great anxiety reducer. http://bit.ly/12XJ8Pc
Many children nowadays have some sort of electronic entertainment while they are in the exam room. This helps to pass the time and with some children, it indeed reduces stress. However, I have noticed that in children on the Autism Spectrum, these devices are more helpful than with other children. It tends to soothe them, in that it allows them to focus on something they enjoy, rather on my examination of them. Now, when parents of children with Autism try to pry these tablets, iPads & handheld gaming devices out of their children's hands, I encourage their use. Parents at first look at me in a questioning manner. However, once they see that most, if not the entire exam can be done with the tablet in the child's hands, without anxiety, they are thrilled. After all, it is stressful enough to go to the pediatrician, let alone to have to wrangle with your child while they are there.
In fact, I've learned that I can be physically more flexible than I knew. Of course, this requires me to be able to work around the child and the tablet, which I was neither trained to do, nor accustomed to do. However, the benefits are worth it. Happy child means happy parent. It's nice to able to maneuver in the world of a child with Autism with an iPad and lots of happiness.