Home Is Where the Heart Is

Ahome, familys a working mom, it's been a delicate balance to juggle work and home every day (http://bit.ly/1odULFX).  I've admired stay at home moms; raising children and caring for your home, exclusively, is a tough task indeed.
Like many of you, I'm at the point in my life where my family needs me home. Recently, were blessed to have another child. With the addition of our daughter, it became clear, that each family member had their own unique needs that weren't being met.  In addition, with my husband's growing practice, it became harder to justify each of us spending less and less time with our family.  After all, what's it all for, if not for family? As part-time work was unavailable, we discussed our options...continue to work or stay at home.
The decision to stay home was a difficult one for may reasons.  I had practiced at the same site for 12.5 years.  I have attachments to many of the families I've helped, even forming friendships along the way.  I've seen many children grow up into lovely young ladies and men.  Undoubtedly, I would miss them.  In addition, being a one income home would mean many changes were in order.  Such a big life change required close scrutiny of finances, creating a detailed household budget, & most of all the cooperation of each member of our little family. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that I need to pause my career, placing a priority on my family.  And so, for now, I'm a stay at home mom.
The transition from being a full-time Pediatrician to a homemaker is exceedingly difficult, as I imagine it would be for any working mother. It's a huge adjustment to a very different life.  I miss the atmosphere in a pediatric office; I sorely miss the spirit of the children. In addition, being a homemaker is hard work.  While it is true that the demands of the office and hospital are no longer present, it is also true that the personal demands of home life are much more than those at work.  After all, there is an end to a work day.  However, there's never an end to the work at home.  As many of you homemakers know, being a stay at home mom is a seemingly never-ending unappreciated and undervalued job. There's lots of repetition of cooking, cleaning, caring, organizing, and being supportive of each family member, while somehow learning and trying to find time for yourself.
On the other hand being a stay at home mom has its great joys.  I'm happy to know that I am here for my husband, our children, and our home life.  For the first time, I am able to dedicate myself completely to family and home. At the end of the day, I must say that it feels pretty darn good to set aside my doctor's hat for a while and be a mommy, a wife, and take care of myself.  Staying at home is difficult, but it is very rewarding and fulfilling.

Banned From the Prom Punishment

James Tate had a unique way to invite Sonali Rodrigues to the prom; he and his friends posted large letters to the wall at his high school entrance. Romantic? Fun? Maybe. Banned from the prom? Yes.

He received an in-school suspension for his antics. However, his high school's policy is that any suspension results in a punishment such that the offending student is banned from the prom. People are stating that the punishment does not fit the crime.

This has hit the media in a firestorm. #teamtate is on twitter. Facebook pages have been created. James and Sonali have been interviewed by the “Today” show and on “Jimmy Kimmel Live.” It is interesting to me that the parents don't seem to get interviewed. Just James, Sonali, and his friends have received national media attention. What about the parents? What are their thoughts? What did they discuss with their son after the incident occurred? Schools are responsible for helping develop character in their students. However, parents are still primary in this arena. It's almost as if parenting is even considered. This can be such a learning tool for so many teenagers out there. Expectations, rules, character development, social media, and so much more can be discussed with our teens from this one simple case.

Now, Connecticut State Rep. Jason Perillo and State Rep. Sean Williams are "drafting legislation that would allow school administrations, along with the parents and the student, to create a community-service option to determine the best course of discipline." While this is noble, I can't believe a law is necessary for this. Why can't the local PTA, the school board, or school district leaders make school discipline in general an issue to discuss? No. Apparently, a state law is this answer.

I think there is something more important that is being missed here; the school, parents, and students, need to communicate. There needs to be a forum in which the schools principles and parenting skills are equally appreciated. Perhaps the answer is that local school officials or the school district officials sit down with parents and students with the purpose of composing a set list of disciplinary measures applicable to various different infractions.

Update May 14, 2011

As it turns out, Shelton High School had a change of heart.  They decided that James Tate could go to the prom after all.  Romance is not dead 🙂

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