7
Jul

Home Is Where the Heart Is

Ahome, familys a working mom, it's been a delicate balance to juggle work and home every day (http://bit.ly/1odULFX).  I've admired stay at home moms; raising children and caring for your home, exclusively, is a tough task indeed.
 
Like many of you, I'm at the point in my life where my family needs me home. Recently, were blessed to have another child. With the addition of our daughter, it became clear, that each family member had their own unique needs that weren't being met.  In addition, with my husband's growing practice, it became harder to justify each of us spending less and less time with our family.  After all, what's it all for, if not for family? As part-time work was unavailable, we discussed our options...continue to work or stay at home.
 
The decision to stay home was a difficult one for may reasons.  I had practiced at the same site for 12.5 years.  I have attachments to many of the families I've helped, even forming friendships along the way.  I've seen many children grow up into lovely young ladies and men.  Undoubtedly, I would miss them.  In addition, being a one income home would mean many changes were in order.  Such a big life change required close scrutiny of finances, creating a detailed household budget, & most of all the cooperation of each member of our little family. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that I need to pause my career, placing a priority on my family.  And so, for now, I'm a stay at home mom.
 
The transition from being a full-time Pediatrician to a homemaker is exceedingly difficult, as I imagine it would be for any working mother. It's a huge adjustment to a very different life.  I miss the atmosphere in a pediatric office; I sorely miss the spirit of the children. In addition, being a homemaker is hard work.  While it is true that the demands of the office and hospital are no longer present, it is also true that the personal demands of home life are much more than those at work.  After all, there is an end to a work day.  However, there's never an end to the work at home.  As many of you homemakers know, being a stay at home mom is a seemingly never-ending unappreciated and undervalued job. There's lots of repetition of cooking, cleaning, caring, organizing, and being supportive of each family member, while somehow learning and trying to find time for yourself.
 
On the other hand being a stay at home mom has its great joys.  I'm happy to know that I am here for my husband, our children, and our home life.  For the first time, I am able to dedicate myself completely to family and home. At the end of the day, I must say that it feels pretty darn good to set aside my doctor's hat for a while and be a mommy, a wife, and take care of myself.  Staying at home is difficult, but it is very rewarding and fulfilling.
 
2
Dec

Thanks After Thanksgiving

What was I thankful for this Thanksgiving?
This Thanksgiving was a rare chance to spend time with my husband's entire family.  Everyone's lives are so busy, it's almost impossible to get everyone in the same place for a day.  An extra special treat this Thanksgiving was the time I spent with my infant nephew on his first Thanksgiving.  It's so exciting to see him standing up!  It's a wonderful gift to be able to see a child developing from month to month, but an even more special gift to see it in your own family.

Next, was the pure love that my other nephew and my son have for each other.  "Fumble"  and "Boing"  were the main games.  These were created on the fly.  What fun to watch!

Lastly, we had a chance to spend some one-on-one time with my brother-in-law, sharing a home cooked meal; it was simple and nice.  The sweetest part of the evening was that he saved two Christmas specials for my son to see. And watching him and my son bond even more than before ... priceless!
There were many moments with each family member.  Too numerous to mention.  Brief snapshots fill my memories.  Yes, I am thankful for so much.  We often take for granted the simple blessing of spending quality time with each other.
Oh & yes ... my mother-in-law made a killer turkey with all the trimmings!  Left-overs were awesome.
What were you thankful for?  What about the kids?  Did you ask them?  It's never to late to look back and give thanks.  As for me, this Thanksgiving, I was thankful for good food, family, love, and memories.
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